Being a parent is a never ending studying process, and I never guess adore I have l acquired enough.
I had to go through a lot of transformation with my personality and mental health so I could be a positive influence on my kids even on my worst nights.
It’s bad to hide all trauma and adversity from your children, however it’s also important to show them a good example of a healthy adult processing normal concerns in life. And if you can teach them healthy coping mechanisms for personal adversity, you will set them up for later in life whenever they’re alone and there’s no one else around to console them. It’s not just about financial responsibility, you have to teach them how to survive on their own in whatever environment they’ll find themselves in when they’re older. The building blocks are cabin maintenance and care. If you don’t wash your space it will lead to unhealthy levels of dust, dirt, fungal spores, and bacteria. They’re also taught to respect the temperature control for the heating and cooling system. I explain to them that it’s not as much about the cash spent on cooling the house, however the wear and tear on the air conditioner if they’re constantly turning it on and off at random moments in time. That’s why the rule is they must ask myself and others first before they want to adjust the temperature for the house. When they’re living on their own they can set their indoor temperature to whatever they want, however they will respect my rules while they’re still living in my household.